Going Solo…Again

Happy Monday all!

As I start making my travel plans for the year,  I know one of my destinations will  be another solo trip. While the idea of solo travel is wonderful, I struggle with it.  I struggle  because honestly I don’t want to travel alone.  In my perfect world I’d have a cool travel buddy to traverse the world with but unfortunately this isn’t the case.  My desire to see the world is stronger than waiting for that buddy so the only way to go is solo.  Whenever I think about traveling solo, my anxieties and fears bubble to the surface. I wish I could be super fearless and just go without any reservations like some of my favorite travel bloggers (I absolutely LOVE Oneika the Traveler). They make traveling solo look so effortless and intoxicating but it wasn’t that way for me.  I found myself wondering who would I talk to? Are people going to look at me strange? Then the super self-conscious thoughts about my weight and race would start. Am I too big to travel? Will I fit in the plane seat? Are people staring at me because I’m black? (nine times out often, yeah they are! LOL) I would ruminate on these thoughts so much I’d start talking myself out of going. Last year I nearly talked myself out of getting on the flight to Dubai!  I thought by going to Dubai solo it would stop these anxieties and fears but it didn’t.   I felt like a failure because my issues didn’t magically disappear after my trip. So instead of beating myself up,  I’ve decided to be real about my struggles with solo travel.  It’s okay to have fears and concerns, the key is not allowing it to stop me from going.  My goal is to become more at peace with solo travel because the reality is that a lot of my travels will  be solo ones (that’s if I don’t meet Mr. Right and he doesn’t like to travel!). Not traveling isn’t an option for me so I have to work through my issues . I’m going to continue to travel solo (eek!) until I become that effortless traveler I  know that lives inside me.

Right now I’m  going back and forth between  Barcelona, Toronto or Havana to visit this year. I can’t decide which place to go so can y’all help a sista out?

Have a great day!

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Barcelona, Spain

Havana, Cuba

Toronto, Canada

We Gon’ Be Alright

TGIF all!

I’d be lying if I said the incoming administration doesn’t scare the heck out of me.  I’m worried about the policies and laws that will impact communities of color, Muslims, women and LGBTQ rights under his presidency. While I have my fears, I won’t allow it to immobilize me. I am encouraged by the growing number people  of all races, sexual preferences and religions who have begun to come together to fight against racism, police brutality,  voter suppression, Islamophobia, homophobia and misogyny.  I’ve made a promise to myself not to stand by and watch injustice transpire.  I will stand up for my fellow Americans any way I can.  I believe this country will move forward and one day fulfill it’s creed that every man (and woman) is created equally.

While I am beyond sad to see President Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama go, I feel so blessed to have witnessed his historic presidency.  I wish  my mother had been alive to see our county’s first African American president.  My mother was born in the South and was apart of the Great Migration to the North to escape Jim Crow’s soul crushing oppression.  For her to have seen Obama become president would’ve been validation that the struggle was worth the terrible price that was paid by so many who fought (and continue to fight) for our freedom.   I’m certain my mother would have burst with pride back in 2008 casting her vote for Obama.

So while I have my fears, I know no matter what we gon’ be alright.

Have a wonderful weekend!

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Coat: old (similar here and here)
Turtleneck: here
Jeans: here
Boots: sold out (similar here)

 

 

Modern Modesty

Happy Monday all!

Apart of my full time job is to be stationed in a courtroom.  In that courtroom, I speak at the bar of the court,  sometimes provide testimony and collaborate with  officers of the court for my clients.   Working in that setting, you are expected to wear modest business attire. If I came into work wearing a blazer over a body con dress, my supervisor would probably send me home! Women have a variety of  reasons for for wanting to dress modestly.  So often it’s cast in a negative life because is not “hot” or “sexy”. Some people tend to dismiss modest dress as boring or frumpy.  Just like PS women,  women who chose to dress modestly want on trend clothing that reflects their belief system too.  Boutiques such as Dainty Jewell’s are doing just that.  Dainty Jewells provides trendy modest clothing from size small to 3XL (which is a about a 22). I appreciate that they offer a range of size inclusive clothing so PS women have more clothing options.  And FYI you don’t have dress modestly to to buy their clothes.  I bought the  fabulous Central Park dress  back in September and wore to my company’s Christmas party last month.    I  received a ton of compliments about my dress that night. The Central Park dress and many of Dainty Jewell’s  offerings  are proof that modest dress is certainly not boring!

Have a wonderful day!

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Dress: c/o Dainty Jewell’s (here)
Necklace: similar here and here
Shoes: similar here

Make A Statement With Happiness Boutique

TGIF all!

Y’all know I love me a  statement earring.  I’m literally OBSESSED with these Bauble Bar earrings  but not the price.  So when Happiness Boutique contacted me about about their affordable array of jewelry, I had to share!

Happiness Boutique offers everything from bracelets to necklaces at prices that wont ravage your wallet.  On top of the budget friendly prices, every Happiness Boutique order ships for FREE! As an avid online shopper, nothing makes me happier than seeing a retailer offer free shipping! As a Happiness Boutique customer, you can earn points for free jewelry and other surprises.  When you register for their free customer reward program    you receive 50 welcome points to start you on your way!  To encourage a Friday shopping spree (you deserve it!), use code grownandcurvywoman to get 10%  off your purchase over $20 until 2/10/17!

So head over to Happiness Boutique and treat yourself to something sparkly!

Have a wonderful weekend!

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Right: Lacy Gold Tone Statement Earring/Left: Summer Days Statement Earring

P.S. My outfit is inspired by the lovely Girl With Curves. When I saw her rocking this Banana Republic utility jacket I had to grab it! I’m wearing an XL and while it runs big, I can’t zip it up because of my boobs.  Nevertheless I’m going to keep it because its so darn cute!

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Jacket: Banana Republic (here)
Top: Old Navy (old, similar here)
Skirt: Lane Bryant (old, similar here)
Boots: Zara (sold out)
Earrings: Happiness Boutique (here)
Belt: Old

 

3 Must Haves for Winter

TGIF all!

Arctic air has descended on Philadelphia and it’s brick cold outside! During this time of year,  being cute completely goes out the window and staying warm becomes my number one priority.   When weather like this sets in I always go to my cold weather staples to keep me warm in the elements.  Here are a few staples below I can personally  vouch for.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Down Coat:  After a few years of freezing my ass off in the Winter, I finally broke down and bought a down coat. I know down coats aren’t a PS girl’s best friend but I was tired of being cold.  While I may look like the Abominable Snowman’s sister I could care less because I’m warm!  This year I was in need of a new down coat so I snagged this Lands End one for over 50% off.  I went with Lands End because they’re known for good quality outerwear.  This coat was originally $219 but  once I combined their after Christmas sale  and an additional 20% off coupon I got it for $95 (plus I got 6% cash back by using Ebates when I purchased it!).

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UGG Boots: For years I avoided UGG boots like the plague.  They didn’t appeal to me because they made my size 10 feet look ridiculously huge.  But after nearly getting frostbite one Winter, I immediately went out and bought a pair.  I haven’t regretted that decision since.  For Christmas this year, my godchildren put their money together and got me a gift card to buy a new pair of UGG boots (my godkids ROCK!).  I got the new streamlined,  water-resistant Kristen boot which looks terrific on my feet.

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Chunky Scarf: my BFF teases that I look like I’m going to Iceland when I wear my chunky scarf but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I hate feeling cold air around my neck so it’s the first thing I cover up. So I’ll keep rocking my chunky scarf while I brave the Antarctic-like Winter temps!

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