“This Is Us” should be banned. Yup, you read that right….banned. Why you ask? Because the sole purpose of NBC’s freshman dramedy is to make you break down sobbing after every episode. The show makes you care about this fictional family so much you forget they aren’t real. It’s the first show in a long time where I’ve liked all the characters. The acting (especially Sterling K. Brown’s Randall!) is superb and Milo Ventimiglia’s character Jack makes me wish he was my husband. Although I try not to cry, by the end of the episode I can’t hold back. The story line between characters Randall and his dying biological father William has deeply resonated with me. Watching them transports me back to the Fall of 1999 when my mom died. On the show, Randall is able to spend time with his ailing father and say goodbye to him. Unfortunately my mother passed in her sleep so I didn’t have the opportunity to say goodbye. Watching their relationship unfold brought up the regret I’ve harbored about not saying goodbye to my mother. I’ve always felt some level of guilt about not being there when she passed. I know this sounds corny but this story line has been cathartic for me in resolving that regret. While I didn’t have the chance to say goodbye, my mother knew I loved her unconditionally. As much as I wanted to be there, I know she was thinking of her children and she carried that love with her until the end. Like William’s character on the show, my mother was severely ill too. I know she hated being sick and so I’m able to take some comfort in knowing her passing ceased the suffering she had endured. Watching Randall and William’s characters on “This Is Us” allows me to grieve openly and not feel bad for not “getting over” her death. I allow myself to feel the lasting affects of my mom’s passing but it also lets me celebrate her too. Remembering her doesn’t always mean tears. My memories of my mother often make me smile, laugh and love her even more. It’s in those moments I feel so privileged to have her as my mother.
So if you’re looking for a new TV show, I highly recommend you binge watch “This Is Us” with a big ole box of Kleenex. You gonna need it!
Have a wonderful weekend!