Happy Monday all!
As I start making my travel plans for the year, I know one of my destinations will be another solo trip. While the idea of solo travel is wonderful, I struggle with it. I struggle because honestly I don’t want to travel alone. In my perfect world I’d have a cool travel buddy to traverse the world with but unfortunately this isn’t the case. My desire to see the world is stronger than waiting for that buddy so the only way to go is solo. Whenever I think about traveling solo, my anxieties and fears bubble to the surface. I wish I could be super fearless and just go without any reservations like some of my favorite travel bloggers (I absolutely LOVE Oneika the Traveler). They make traveling solo look so effortless and intoxicating but it wasn’t that way for me. I found myself wondering who would I talk to? Are people going to look at me strange? Then the super self-conscious thoughts about my weight and race would start. Am I too big to travel? Will I fit in the plane seat? Are people staring at me because I’m black? (nine times out often, yeah they are! LOL) I would ruminate on these thoughts so much I’d start talking myself out of going. Last year I nearly talked myself out of getting on the flight to Dubai! I thought by going to Dubai solo it would stop these anxieties and fears but it didn’t. I felt like a failure because my issues didn’t magically disappear after my trip. So instead of beating myself up, I’ve decided to be real about my struggles with solo travel. It’s okay to have fears and concerns, the key is not allowing it to stop me from going. My goal is to become more at peace with solo travel because the reality is that a lot of my travels will be solo ones (that’s if I don’t meet Mr. Right and he doesn’t like to travel!). Not traveling isn’t an option for me so I have to work through my issues . I’m going to continue to travel solo (eek!) until I become that effortless traveler I know that lives inside me.
Right now I’m going back and forth between Barcelona, Toronto or Havana to visit this year. I can’t decide which place to go so can y’all help a sista out?
Have a great day!