This has been a pretty stressful week for me with one thing happening after another. Although I feel overwhelmed, I’m trying to remain positive. Unfortunately it has been hard to stay positive and I’ve slipped back into negative self talk at times. Instead of beating myself up about slipping, I acknowledge it and get back on track. To help me stay focused, I’m handling each issue separately instead of lumping them all together. Doing this helps me analyze the situation more thoroughly to think of ways of resolving the issue. And when I start to feel overwhelmed again , I take a time out and come back to the issue later. Treating my problems this way is very different for me because I used to subscribe to the “strong black woman” archetype. “Strong” women were supposed to quickly and efficiently solve problems without any feeling. It has been hard pretending to be a “strong black woman” all the time. I would routinely get down on myself because because I hadn’t solved all my problems and wasn’t “all together”. It’s taken me some time, but I’m creating my own definition of what it means to be a strong woman. It’s okay if things are messy and unresolved. It’s okay that I’m still evolving and learning each day. Life at times can be rough and unexpected things are going to happen. I know that no matter what, I will be able to handle whatever arises and keep shining through!
Have a wonderful weekend!