Shining Through

TGIF all!

This has been a pretty stressful week for me  with one thing happening after another.  Although I feel overwhelmed,  I’m trying to remain positive. Unfortunately it has been hard to stay positive and I’ve slipped back into negative self talk at times.   Instead of beating myself up about slipping, I acknowledge it and get back on track.  To help me stay focused, I’m handling  each issue separately instead of lumping them all together. Doing this helps me analyze the situation more thoroughly to think of ways of resolving the issue.  And when I start to feel overwhelmed again , I take a time out and come back to the issue later. Treating my problems this way is very different for me because I used to subscribe to the “strong black woman” archetype. “Strong” women were supposed to quickly and efficiently solve problems without any feeling.  It has been hard pretending to be a “strong black woman” all the time.  I would routinely get down on myself because  because I hadn’t solved all my problems and wasn’t “all together”.  It’s taken me some time, but I’m creating my own definition of what it means to be a strong woman.  It’s okay if things are messy and unresolved.  It’s okay that I’m still evolving and learning each day.  Life at times can be rough and unexpected things are going to happen.  I know that no matter what, I will be able to handle whatever arises and keep shining through!

Have a wonderful weekend!

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Blazer: Eloquii (here, on sale for 40-60% off!)
Shirt: Who What Wear x Target (here)
Skirt: old
Shoes: Nine West (old, similar here)
Bag: Cult Gaia (here)

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3 Comments

  1. Margaret
    March 10, 2017 / 8:01 pm

    Look after yourself:
    Try to get a good night’s sleep
    Eat some healthy food and not too much, or any, sugar.
    Take plenty of liquids — perhaps not to much coffee?
    Try to relax. Go for a short walk.
    Basic stuff but *especially* important when you’re stressed

  2. Dribid
    March 11, 2017 / 9:36 am

    You always shin through in your posts and thank you for sharing your process and being authentic.

  3. Rebecca
    March 13, 2017 / 4:58 pm

    Please know that you are not alone! Life is crazy and stressful and overwhelms us all at times. Whether or not you always feel strong or not, you are a lovely woman and inspire us to be adventurous and stylish at whatever size or age.