Casual Friday/Reclaiming the Booty

TGIF everyone!

I’ve been DYING for a pair of magenta colored pants for a while now, so when I saw these pants on Eloquii’s website I jumped all over them. When I put  them on, I was surprised by the snug fit around my hips and butt. As far as I could remember, I’ve always had a love/dislike (I refuse to say “hate”) relationship with my booty.   I grew up knowing I had a large posterior but  others began to notice the same once I hit middle school.    From the 6th to 8th grades I was  called “Getta the Butt” (the boy who started this proudly told me he didn’t want call me Jabba the Hut so he came up with Getta the Butt!).  Things hit a fever pitch in 10th grade  when the EU song “Da Butt” came out.  Almost on a daily basis  I was greeted by male classmates singing “Getta got a big ol’ butt…OH YEAH!”  During those years I would pray to God to deflate the size of my derrière so the teasing (and unwanted stares) would stop.  Unfortunately my prayers went unanswered and I started wearing  oversized clothes to deflect attention away from my butt.

Fast forward to 40-year-old me being flooded by unpleasant memories while trying on these pants. For a millisecond I thought about returning them but I stopped. Returning the pants will not make my booty any smaller than it is. By returning them, I would be allowing negative self-doubt to rule me again.  So  I decided to keep the pants and show off   my glorious booty!

Have a wonderful weekend!

TJ told me to pose like this!

My bootylicious pose!

TJ in action!

Pants: Eloquii

Shirt & Bracelet: H&M

Blazer: Torrid

Shoes: Sofft

Necklace: Nordstrom Rack



  1. August 17, 2012 / 6:08 pm

    Those pants are awesome and I’m SO glad you’re keeping them. They look great on you! Who knew you’d be so dang fabulous in bright pink pants!? 😉 LOVE IT! <3

  2. August 17, 2012 / 7:52 pm

    Love your posing. TJ is a great photo coach. This whole post had me in stitches. There reall is nothing you can do but embrace the booty. I’ve always been told that I’ve “got a lot of butt, for a white girl” (whatever that means?). I don’t know about you, but I like having something squishy to sit on all day:)

  3. August 17, 2012 / 7:55 pm

    Good call – keep the pants – your’re beautiful and you look beautiful in them.

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:33 pm

      Thank you sooooo much! Im happy I kept them!

  4. Karen Bowers
    August 17, 2012 / 8:02 pm

    Love how happy you are wearing those pants and showing off your bod! I have a friend whose been trying to talk me into a pair of red ones with a similar fit, and you inspire me! Thanks!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:33 pm

      Thank you! I would love to see you in your red pants! Go for it!

  5. August 17, 2012 / 8:45 pm

    Girl, you are rocking those pants!!! I’ve got a major shelf bootie. It is an unending source of grief for me and joy for my fiancé. Your post has totally inspired me to attempt making a part of crops in a totally outrageous color. I’m thinking electric blue. Hope you have a great weekend!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:32 pm

      YES! Please email me a pic when you do wear those colorful crops!

  6. August 17, 2012 / 9:47 pm

    Not a damn thing wrong with being bootylicious! I love those pants, and I am going over to eloquii right now to make some decisions!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:31 pm

      LOL! No there is nothing wrong with being bootylicious! I definitely want to see what you get from Eloquii!!!

  7. August 17, 2012 / 9:48 pm

    Girl you are beautiful and you have a beautiful soul also.

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:29 pm

      Thank you SO MUCH!!! You made me tear up, thank you!!!

  8. wanda
    August 17, 2012 / 10:24 pm

    Girl you better work that magenta! Love it!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:29 pm

      LOL..thank you! I was channeling RuPaul in that last picture! LOL

      • August 19, 2012 / 3:26 am

        today i walked into talbots. first time in years that i’ve braved that shop. thanks for the inspiration.

      • August 20, 2012 / 9:54 pm

        Youre mighty welcomed! I hope you found items you liked.

  9. August 17, 2012 / 11:33 pm

    I think the pants look great.
    I can relate to your story and about a month ago or so I timidly posted my own story about my hips, butt and thighs (Hips, butt and thighs, I’ve got them”). In my blog photos it’s pretty easy to hide the booty….but believe me…I do have a very large one that does not fit the rest of my body.
    Even as an adult, I vacillate between appreciation and loathing of this feature.
    I love that other(most) cultures are more appreciative of this feature…I can say without hesitation that it is not a feature that some American males appreciate!
    I’ve learned to live with it…but in that moment when I’m walking away from someone…I can almost feel the stares.
    I’m glad you are proud. You look beautiful.
    Dangerous Curves

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:28 pm

      Thank you for sharing this with me. I checked out your blog and youre BEAUTIFUL curvy woman! I love that despite your concerns about your body, you still have passion for dance and you wont let this deter you. Hats off to you hon! 🙂

  10. August 18, 2012 / 2:31 am

    I love your last three poses best because you look so happy and that is unbelievably attractive. You look great, even without the happiness. You kinda inspire me to be a little braver.

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:17 pm

      Thank you so much for this comment! Im so happy Ive inspired you to be braver. 🙂

  11. August 18, 2012 / 5:02 am

    Okay… I need that top! The pants look fabulous on you too! That color combination is on point!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:12 pm

      That top was only $13 at H&M! Thank you so much for sweet comments!

  12. Creative Thought
    August 18, 2012 / 5:53 am

    Yes, yes, yes! I know how you feel. My lushous bottom ruled my self image for many years, and now that I’m just about to turn 40, I’ve started to accept that it’s never going to be little… and that’s okay with me because it really doesn’t define who I am. You look lovely and I’m pleased you’re keeping your magenta pants. Hugs from your supporter Down Under 🙂

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:11 pm

      You are so right about how it doesnt define who you are! Thats why it was so important for me to keep them and embrace my body. Thank you for the support from Down Under! Hugs to you from the City of Brotherly Love!

  13. August 18, 2012 / 12:38 pm

    I think that you have a beautiful body!! And good for you for stepping out of your comfort zone to show it off. Rock that booty lady!! Love the color of the pants. FANTASTIC!!!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:10 pm

      Thank you hon! Trust me the booty was getting all kinds of attention in those pants! LOL

  14. simplybee
    August 18, 2012 / 1:12 pm

    Luv the pants on you. I can remember being teased also for my large breasts & curvy shape in my youth. Gosh you brought back memories of my self esteem back then. I hid behind over size clothes then & fight to this day to accept compliments about my body & how something looks on me. Luv luv your blog. “”GROWN & CURVY” its what we are!

    • August 18, 2012 / 3:09 pm

      Yes we are GROWN AND CURVY!!! Thank you for sharing and visiting my blog!

  15. August 19, 2012 / 11:34 pm

    Love those pants! I have been looking for a pair the same color!!! 🙂

  16. September 12, 2012 / 8:53 am

    Thank goodness you didn’t return the pants. They look beautiful on you regardless of your booty.
    I have huge hips and booty and hate shopping because I spend endless hours searching for the right fit, lol. So i totally understand how you feel.
    NO to self doubt and YES to ‘I love my body’ (I definitely need that last phrase in my life)
    I had a nice visit.
    Lagos, Nigeria

    • September 12, 2012 / 12:06 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment! Im glad you had a nice visit. Please come back soon!